Hey people, feels so good to write to you again.
So yeah, lets talk Situationships!!!!! I know you know what Situationship means but since I am a nice person, let me give a simple definition just incase you’ve forgotten and want to walk away thinking this isn’t for you😀😀. So, Situationship is anything less than a relationship, but more than a casual encounter or booty call(friends with benefit). It could be a romantic relationship that is, and remains, undefined. A situationship is that space between a committed relationship and something that is more than a friendship. I think I prefer this highlighted definition because a situationship isn’t necessarily, romantic, sexual, or rather doesn’t have to be sexual. A Situationship is just basically anything that could be more but isn’t due to some circumstances, either intentionally, knowingly or not. Well, I think its about time we talk about this because a lot, if not everyone of us are in a situationship but I think we either just live in denial or generally like to avoid talking about it because it obviously feels like a safe space or its just non existent.
How do we find ourselves in situationshps????? we walk in with our legs of cause😂😂😂😂 well, sometimes we’re lied to, people omit the truth, when you don’t know what you want and everything seems like it, when you cant get what you want, when you just want to play safe, when you keep catching feelings abi crushing on every person that is nice to you and they’re making it clear to you that its ‘just as friends‘ but No! since you get coconut head and you no dey hear word, you will just be catching feelings anyhow and before you know it you’re in deep and just settle for whatever it is because you must keep feeding your already hungry emotions. So yeah, most of the time we catwalk into situationships with our legs and our eyes wide open because obviously our emotions are being fed and it feels like we’re on the run way. I think basically, it also happens when we get the right type and amount of attention we need from a certain someone without defining what it is. lol, the Bible wasn’t obviously joking when it said ‘guard your hearts with all diligence‘.😆😆. In other cases, the reason for your situationship could be a recent breakup. If you or your partner recently ended a serious, long-term relationship, the timing might not be right to commit and you just need something casual to keep body, mind and soul together while you work on getting back at or with your ex( ha! this one is a double situationship)😂😁. other times, we find ourselves in Situationships because that exactly what we want, and there’s absolutely no crime in that. In some other cases, it could be factors that are just beyond our control (distance, health, religion, and many others).
When do you know you’re in a Situationship???? you’re more than friends but it cant even be called a relationship either. you talk all the time, have feelings for them, you feel attached but there’s no form of commitment. you’re just there constantly feeding your emotions, fantasizing about what could be. you’re just going with the flow until they wake up one day and tell you they’re committed to someone else or ask you why you aren’t in a relationship. lol😂. it just feels like a safe space to throw your emotions around with no tag attached to it. when you feel confused and begin to ask questions like ‘what are we‘, my dear you’re in a situationship. Sometimes, you get really emotionally attached that in your head you’re in a relationship, but in reality, you’re not. you’re just emotionally committed to someone with the hope of a relationship on a long run.
You also know its a Situationship when you only make short-term or last minute plans. when instead of making proper plans to see you, they say ‘I’ll see you when I see you‘. when instead of ‘I’ll like you to come along with me‘, they’ll say ‘come if you want to’(nothing particularly annoys me like this one). you don’t feel wanted or needed you just fit into an emotional space at that time. when there’s no consistency. This week you’re talking all day, smiling with your mouth wide open and your not so white set of teeth on display(you know how you smile and your face begins to hurt, that’s the kind of smile I’m talking about). You’re texting, sending voice notes and even switch to normal voice call when one person doesn’t respond to a chat in two seconds. Next week your barely hearing from them and when they’re back, its like they never left. when they keep making statements like ‘as a friend‘ especially when you ask about their opinion on something.
My hands are really itching to write more but then this is getting longer than I imagined so we might have to have a continuation in another post as there’s a lot to talk about but I’m trying to make this really short and enjoyable to read. Also, I know a few people that cant stand to read anything more than two paragraphs. So, Lastly, are you waiting on anyone or stalked in, to, with, for, in, to your ex or basically just anyone?????? My dear, that’s a situationship because you’re there holding on to what’s not as you have refused to accept the fact that there’s nothing for you there abi O ti pari(it has ended). My dear, better wake up, get your head together and accept and start to live in the reality of what it is. And most importantly if the reason why you’re in a Situationship is because you’re waiting on someone or holding onto what’s not, you need to know that you’re too good to wait on anyone. How can someone keep a whole you hanging???? don’t put your self in that situationship abeg.🤗🙂
I’ll like to end with this, Situationships aren’t entirely bad, as far as you’re sure that that’s what want, you know what you are doing and you’re really really sure that you know what you’re doing. Situationships aren’t bad if there’s mutual understanding, respect and you know your limit. So my darlings ‘guard your hearts with all diligence‘ while at it. Meanwhile, watch out for part two.😎😎😎. Don’t forget to like, share and leave a comment. Thank you for always!🤩🤩